As a 28-year-old woman who has been married for almost 7 years, you can imagine the number of times I have been asked, “When are you going to have kids?” My answer has changed over the years. When I was 22 I would say something along the lines of, “we are just going to enjoy being married for a couple of years”. When I turned 24 I would say, I think we need a bigger house or we need more money. When I turned 26 it was I wanted to be more successful in my career. When I was 27 all I wanted to do was travel and wasn’t thinking about a baby. Now I am 28 and don’t get asked that question as often. My husband and I both have secure jobs and live in a great place to raise a child. So why has the question stopped? Maybe it is because people think I am getting too old for children and I disagree with that. My generation is waiting longer and longer to have children. 30 is the new 20.
If you are the 30-year-old mom of 2 girls who are both in tumbling and swim, I applaud you! You knew what you wanted and you did it. I know those girls are the light of your existence. I envy that. I envy having something that is a part of you care so deeply for your attention. You get to watch them grow and develop into a version of yourself. I do want that.
So you may be wondering if my husband and I want to have a baby. Our answer is yes. We are truly just enjoying our time together. Many may think I have infertility issues, and I might. That is something I won’t know until we try to conceive. I will cross that bridge when I get there. We have accomplished so much in our life without children. We have been able to travel, remodel our home, be a great aunt and uncle, start new hobbies, work out, pay off student loans, etc. Don’t let the people of the world pressure you into having a baby sooner than you want. No one can make that decision for you.